How to Transform Your Personal Image and Enjoy Power

An image speaks louder than a thousand words…A Chinese proverb

How do people perceive us?

What impression do they have about us?

What is their belief system about us like?

What is their mental and emotional response like when they see your face or hear your voice?

You must never underestimate the power of perception!

People will most likely treat us the way they see us, not the way we see ourselves.

Our presentation and communication will determine the response we get from the crowd.

If you learn the art of creating a powerful image, symbol, spectacle, gesture and attitude, you will win the heart and mind of people, and you will have a slight edge over your friends and competitors and also increases your opportunity chances!

Take this from me…

To win people, you must first appeal to their sense of SIGHT.

Here are some powerful and can’t-do-without principles you must practice.

1. Be bold and confident: This is a winning attitude you cannot do without in the world of power, influence and leadership. Nobody lies to be around a coward!

2. Master your emotions through self-discipline and control: you must understand that power is nothing without control. It’s destructive to your image to always respond to emotions like hate, jealousy, envy and bitterness. Your emotions create your impression.

3. Avoid negative communication like quarrelling, complaining and arguments: yes, it’s true that we cannot or may not absolutely live without these things, but never let these negative communications to become part of you if you desire a positive image of power.

4. Live a healthy lifestyle: You cannot be a smoker, drunker, womanizer or a party crooner and expect to build a positive self image that will influence or lead others. In these, people will see you as unfit to be a role model. First remove the stick in your eyes, before you think of others. True talk!

5. Be funny and creative: You must have a striking presence when you are among people. You must learn to heart of filling people’s heart with humor, joy and laughter. People can’t resist this!

6. Be generous with gifts: Givers never lack…never lack friends and people.

7. Become financially independent: You word or presence may sometimes not be felt among people because there is an hole in your pocket! Stop begging and relying on others. Aim at financial dependency and you will earn power for yourself.

Please I beseech you to practice and develop these secrets and you life will never remain the same.

Live the life without walls!

Rufus Yamoah

Life Coach

The Secret of Becoming a Lovable Person

“Therefore all things whatsoever you would that men should do for you, do even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets".

Here is the plain-straight truth:

EVERYONE WANTS TO BE LOVED

This is perhaps the greatest need of man.

Everything we do in life is in one way or more connected to the love hole in our soul that we striveto fill

Love is the mother of all life’s pleasures, satisfaction and fulfillment.

 If you are not loved by others, it does matter how much you’ve got!

It is sweet to Love, but by experience, I can tell you that…

IT IS EVEN SWEETER TO BE LOVED.

Been Lovable?

I hear so many people say, “I am not a lovable person”, “I don’t have the charisma”.

**What makes one a lovable person?**

CHARISMA OR CHARM…**whatever you call it, its hell NO!

Been lovable is not in- born thing, because it’s not a natural gift neither is it a biological inheritance.

Yes; it’s true some people are naturally attractive.

But the first step you must  grasp, is that there is a big difference between been attractive and been lovable

Listen: JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE UGLY DOES NOT MEAN YOU CANNOT BE LOVABLE; AND ALSO, JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE ATTRACTIVE DOES MEAN YOU ARE LOVABLE!

What Makes ONE lovable?

His ability to LOVE!

Yes; His ability to LOVE.

To be lovable means to be lovely

Love is a SEED.

When we sow love, we reap LOVE

When we sow envy, we reap hatred; when we sow hate, we reap murder.

 Every one of us was born with the potential to become a lovable person.

Why?

Because we where created by LOVE.

Our blood line is from LOVE and we have an in-built nature of love lying inside of us.

It’s time to awake that sleeping giant called ‘love’ inside us.

How?

When we begin to stretch our curds and start to genuinely love people irrespective of their differences and weaknesses, we will begin to see our potential and capacity to attract Love and become a lovable person.

Everything leads to this STATEMENT OF FACT: if you want love, first give it!

How much love you give to others will determine how much love you attract or command to yourself.

I dare you to become lovable today.

I dare you to increase the measure of your life success and fulfillment by loving and caring for others.

Hatred is ‘taking a gun and shooting yourself thinking someone else we die!”

Remember…

There is a great MEASURE OF LOVE inside of you.

Until you start thinking this way, you cannot release yourself to love others.

Love yourself…

Love others…

Love God…

Love Life

Keep your smile

Rufus Yamoah

Life coach

How to Inspire and Influence People through Praise

“….the Lord has anointed me to ….give them the mantle of praise instead of a faint spirit”---Isaiah 61:1-3 (RSV)

Let us try to understand the meanings of the keywords

And then try to apply and analyze them.

Keyword 1: ANOINTED:

To be anointed means: to be empowered; given ability, power or unction; a might or an enablement to do something.

TRUTH: When God created you He has anointed you…put inside of you power  and enablement to be able to fulfill your purpose in life.

Keyword 2: TO GIVE: God created us to GIVE.

Yes; we are in this world to reproduce, fill, replenish, add and give value to this world.

Have you ever asked yourself this question: “Why is that when a man dies he takes nothing along to his grave?”

Here is the answer: A man was created to GIVE, therefore we all came to live a giving life.

We are anointed to GIVE.

There is so much we can give…

Our talents, love, care, strength, money, skills, knowledge, resources…just name it.

A life that is not constantly giving out something is perhaps living out of His Divine Order.

 Keyword 3: MANTLE OF PRAISE:

First of all, let’s know the meaning of the word ‘mantle’

According to Webster dictionary, mantle means ‘a loose sleeveless outer garment or something that covers or wraps’.

This is amazing!

The truth it offers is just mind blowing.

What then is mantle of praise?

It means… a praise that wraps or covers one like a garment!

TRUTH: We have been appointed and anointed to give out praise that will wrap or cover others like a garment. It’s like buying a beautiful cloth for someone!

To cloth people with PRAISE, we must learn to praise people genuinely and generously.

Let us not let the garment of praise we have to rust in our wardrobe.

We must give it out!

Keyword 4: FAINT SPIRIT:

This is what you must never do.

But the truth is that I have seen too many people do this all the time.

What is a faint spirit?

Faint spirit means to be broken-hearted; downcast; hopeless; depressed; mourning; sad and discouraged.

Giving a faint spirit means causing people to be discouraged; beaking people’s heart; causing them pain and taking away their joy.

Are you one of those that give out faint spirit instead of a mantle of praise? (EXAMINE YOUR WAYS)

You must go back to your divine order.

We are always very quick to criticize and judge when the job is done poorly, and we are very slow to give out praise and compliment when to job is done well.

***CHANGE YOUR ORIENTATION***

Why WE Must Give Out Praise Generously…

Praise makes people feel loved

Praise inspires boldness and confidence in people

Praise create motivation and force in people

Praise makes people feel important.

Praise brings out the beauty and smile of people

Give out some praise today

This is my praise to you: “Everything about you is Special!”

Rufus Yamoah

Life Coach

How to Get Answer to Your Life Trouble

“On my soul, why are thou cast down within me?”

“Therefore my thoughts answer me, because of the waste within me” --Job 20:2 (RSV)

The word ‘haste’ can also mean “troubled” “confused” “disturbed” “In distress” and “anxious”.

The Haste Within…

David, the Psalmist said, “Oh my soul, why are thou cast down within me?”-- Psalm 42:5


There are times we feel troubled, disturbed or anxious within ourselves and we find it real hard to figure out what  really is the cause.
Remember?
Ya...those times you ask yourself, "Oh...what is the problem with me! why am I like this...gush! I feel terrible with myself, and I just can't place it!"

This is what I called  P.P. E- PSYCHOLOGICAL PITFALL EXPERIENCE

Experience has taught me that, “When I can’t figure out the answer to my disturbed and troubled soul, it makes me feel helpless, discouraged and frustrated. And when this state last for too long than expected, it will lead me into depression and cast down”.

David, the Psalmist, found himself in such a situation where he could not figure out why he is in distress within himself.
And this made cried out, “On my soul, why are thou cast down within me?”

Even though David, like us, found himself in this psychological pitfall, he did something that triggered and transform my life forever.

What could that be…?

He practiced THE ART OF SELF-QUESTIONING!

He understood perfectly well the power of questioning yourself

Now some people called this madness.
When they hear you questioning yourself, they mock and ridicule you.
But you should say what Job said: “Bear with me, and I will speak, after I have spoken, MOCK ON”. (Job 27:3)

This is an incredible secret and practice that would get any one out of any P.P.
YOU MUST LEARN TO TALK TO YOUR SOUL!

When you feel troubled, disturbed or anxious, what do you do?
Talk to your soul…talk to your mind.

Then you ask, “But why should I talk to my soul?” “What does this has to do with me getting out of my P.P??”

Good.

Job (probably this man is an authority when it comes to sorrow, distress and multiple troubles) said, “Therefore my thoughts answers me, because of the haste within me”.

Let me re-frame this verse for clear understanding.
Job, in other words, said, “Therefore by my thoughts I draw up answers for my disturbed and troubled soul”.

Wow! You can't that!

The Power of Thoughts

Thoughts are so powerful.

They have power and influence over your feelings.

Bad feelings are caused or created by negative thought(s).
Negative thoughts means “to think wrongly or out of line”
Whenever you think out of line, you must know that you are creating a seed that will germinate into P.P.

To get put of your P.P (I hope you still remember what it means-- psychological pitfall), you have to change or replace your negative thoughts, mentality or mindset.

But wait a minute…

How do I know the state of my mind?

GOOD.

You must consciously learn to listen to those silent words running or playing in your mind. Ask yourself, “how healthy is my mind or my thoughts?”

Note: "To change a bad feeling, is to replace it with a good thought”.

Draw some answers for your soul today.

Feed your soul with good thoughts and you shall be healthy and happy.

P.S:  A healthy thought-life is a healthy life!

Rufus Yamoah
Life Without Walls

7 Principles of A Positive Thinker

How Winners Think that the Poor and Failure Do Not
As Taught By Jose Mourinho

Why Do people succeed and others fail?

What constitute success in life?

Success in life is a function of the mind
--Napoleon Hill


Here the 7 Principles I learn from one of the greatest positive thinkers I have ever met or read about in life—Jose Mourinho.


1. Understand that you are a Special Person: Jose Mourinho said, “I am not the one who comes straight out of a bottle—I’m the special one”. You must understand who you really are. Poor self-image will only destroy your power to grow. The greatest discovery of humanity is the discovery of self worth.


2. The Winning Mentality: Mourinho said, “You have to win. When you don’t win, it is not good enough, when you finish second, it is not good enough, when you lose a final… it is not good enough”. This is the winning mentality. Never settle for less. You either get what you want or nothing less! Do not accept what the world offer you, you must skillfully seduced the world into given you what you want. For Mourinho, settling for less is as good as getting nothing. In you resolution to succeed, you must make up your mind to win and win at all cost. Any price is what paying to win.


3. The TOP—the sweetest place: Mourinho observed, “There is no pressure at the top. The pressure’s in being second or third”. As a positive thinker, you must never think that getting to the top will cause you more trouble, pressure, pain and trauma. For the winner, there is nothing like ‘fear of success’. If you ever want to get to the top in life you must at all cost break out from the ‘sickle’ mentality that says, “There is too much pressure or competition at the top”.


4. Leverage the power of human resources: Mourinho said, “I’m a manager of human resources and I have to work with everybody…” No man is an island. The man who doesn’t need people is perhaps the saddest man in the world. Without people, you can never get real far in life. As a positive thinker, you must get rid of the “know-it-all’” and “do-it-yourself” mentality.


5. Be open to learn, re-learn and keep learning: Mourinho said, “Those who think they know everything are truly ignorant. I want to learn something new everyday; it’s the type of person I am”. What kind of person are you? Do you learn something new everyday? As a positive thinker, you must keep an open mind and be flexible in your learning.


6. Mistake is no big deal: Mourinho said, “If I made a mistake I apologize. I am happy I’m not going to jail because of that”. Too many of us behave as if mistake or failure is illegal. Mistake is ethical, natural and part of life! A child will never walk if he is afraid to fall. (Think about that). Nobody is going to jail for a mistake. Mistake is no big deal! As a positive thinker, you must think and see failure as only a friend assisting you towards achieving your dream. Of a truth I have learn is that: mistake is really our best friend on our way to success.


7. You are truly the best: Mourinho bomb shelled, “There is nobody in the world better than me”. You are the best. Without you the world is incapacitated. The world needs you because it cannot do without you. Whatever happens to you will only reflect in the world. You must believe in your value and the image that was given to you by God. You are a god in this ‘ethnos’!

These principles as taught by the great football coach, Jose Mourinho, have been of great and tremendous help to my life and my way of thinking.


Remember: As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.



To your success

Rufus Yamoah
Life Without Walls!